If people are really concerned about Barry Bonds juicing up and breaking Hank Aaron’s home run record, umm, just walk his ass. Every game. 4 Balls. Walk. 4 Balls. Walk. Until he leaves baseball… I’m not saying he ever juiced, lots of men go from a size 10.5 to 13 shoe as an adult. But this sort of thing taints the purity of the… oh wait, I don’t care about baseball.

So, been replying to a lot of personal ads on Craigslist (and if any of you found this site: hello!). My take so far is that aside from the over-specific ones, the vast majority are too similar. If everyone was able to line up and date purely based on what we do with ourselves in our free time, there would apparently be a lot more couples out there.

Eating out. Cooking. Working out. Yoga. Movies. Music. Dancing. Exploring the neighborhoods. Going to the beach.

I’m not saying this is a bad thing, and I guess you could whittle the list down a bit if a lot of those don’t line up and the picture didn’t do much for you, but once you meet, it’s not like you have a lot of specific stuff that intersects. “So, you like restaurants, huh?”

Not saying I have any intention of stopping, but one thing I have sort of noticed:

Very few people read.

And I guess that sort of reminds me of the line in Terence McNally’s “Love! Valour! Compassion!” when one of the house guests says: “I’m puzzled. What kind of statement about his work do you think a choreographer is making by living with a blind person?”

I mean, I don’t know that I need a voracious book reader. Even someone who mainly reads non-fiction (as most of the world does these days) would be OK. But it seems like there needs to be some connection on that level, no?

I mean, my mother and stepfather seem to have few overlapping interests. They rarely read the same books, want to see the same movies, watch TV together, but beyond all that, there is enough shared to keep it going.

So, am I making too much of my bad batting average finding readers here? Should I be going to the gay book group every month, if that’s a big thing? Should it even be a big thing? Does any of that sort of overlap even matter? I rarely care what sort of career they have, as long as they are happy with it and such. So, why do they need to line up with what I do?

Anyway, just been tossing that around, figured I’d toss it up here.

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